Why do I work so hard? (avoiding crashes)¶
What to work on¶
If someone works all the time - you neglect other parts of your life
Problem¶
Preventing downward spirals
- Feeling overwhelmed
- feeling: not enough energy to accomplish the task
- Avoidance and doing something easier to feel like I'm getting something done
- My feeling of worth comes from my productivity?
- Feeling empty and just wanting to just feel something good
I'm not good enough - my worth is impacted by performance: how to challenge that
If you don't have time to take care of your mental health, you don't have time for anything else - not work - not friends - not body
Possible causes¶
Falling behind¶
mental anchor of where I'm supposed to be
- Catching up is paralyzing (min 8)
- taking the first step isn't useful
- any step you take forward
- feels like it's not enough
- need to let go of catching up and that you're behind
Being behind & catching up: mental constructions
if you want to gain muscle, you have to go to the gym
How to let go of falling behind/catching up¶
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why is it hard
- Culture: redemption arc
- super behind => have to achieve so much to make up for it
- example: My Hero Academia: Deku going from no power -> GOAT 🐐
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need to let go of that fantasy of triumph
- all you have to do is move forward
Perfectionism vs Progress¶
Perfectionism is about the end state
Progress is about the next step
It's hard to let go of perfectionism - brain's way of coping with: how will I make up for my mistakes
What makes it hard to let of doing perfect work? - what does that evoke in your mind? - shame? - dissatisfaction - it's not truth, it's an emotion
It's my job to make the campus safe Not to make people feel safe - Security at a campus
even in a safe environment, people can feel unsafe